()いて

しいて
adverb
forcibly; compulsorily; if pressed; if I must say
grammaticalexpression
1. forcibly; by force; compulsorily
Doing something against one's will or nature, or making someone do something unwillingly.
You don't need to force yourself to participate.
It's not right to force someone to drink when they don't want to.
You shouldn't force your opinions on others.
2. if pressed; if I must say; dare I say
Used when offering an opinion reluctantly or when pressed to give an answer even though one doesn't have a strong opinion.
If I had to choose, this one might be better.
If I had to say, I guess I like blue more than red.
If I had to point out something, the problem was that we didn't have enough time.

Etymology

The て-form of the verb ()いる (to force, to compel), now fixed as an adverb.

Sense 1 - forcibly

Doing something, or making someone do something, against their inclination:

  • ()いて〜する (to do ~ by force, to force oneself to ~)
  • ()いて〜させる (to force someone to ~)

It is most often negated: ()いて〜必要(ひつよう)ない (there is no need to force it), ()いてはいけない (you must not force it). A plain affirmative sounds stiff and literary.

Sense 2 - if pressed

Followed by a conditional, this is one of the most useful hedges in spoken Japanese:

The speaker is signalling that they have no strong preference and are answering only because they were asked, so the opinion that follows should not be weighed too heavily. Sentence-final かな or かもしれない often softens it further.

Similar words

  • あえて - to do something deliberately despite the difficulty or the reasons not to; a positive choice, where ()いて is closer to reluctance
  • 無理(むり)やり - forcibly, by brute force; blunter and more physical than sense 1, and never used for the hedging sense