(しゃこうじれい)

しゃこうじれい
noun
social pleasantry, polite fiction
1. social pleasantry, polite fiction, lip service
A polite remark or promise made for the sake of social harmony rather than out of genuine intent. Compliments, invitations, or expressions of interest that are not meant literally.
それは社交辞令(しゃこうじれい)だよ。
That's just a polite pleasantry.
今度(こんど)()みに()きましょう」は社交辞令(しゃこうじれい)かもしれない。
"Let's go out for drinks sometime" might just be a social pleasantry.
社交辞令(しゃこうじれい)本音(ほんね)区別(くべつ)がつかなくて(こま)ることがある。
Sometimes I have trouble telling the difference between polite pleasantries and what people really mean.

CULTURAL NOTE:
社交辞令(しゃこうじれい) is a particularly important concept for understanding Japanese communication. Many polite expressions that sound like genuine invitations or compliments are actually 社交辞令(しゃこうじれい) — said to maintain smooth social relations rather than to be taken literally. For example, 今度(こんど)(あそ)びに()てください (please come visit sometime) often does not mean a real invitation. Learning to distinguish 社交辞令(しゃこうじれい) from sincere statements is a key social skill in Japan.

USAGE:
Often used when someone realizes a comment was not sincere, or when explaining Japanese social customs. Can carry a slightly cynical nuance when pointing out insincerity.

COMMON COLLOCATIONS:

  • 社交辞令(しゃこうじれい)()う: to make a polite pleasantry
  • 社交辞令(しゃこうじれい)()()ける: to take a pleasantry at face value
  • 社交辞令(しゃこうじれい)だと()かる: to realize it's just a pleasantry