タメ(ぐち)

ためぐち
noun
casual speech; informal language
See also: ため(ぐち) (casual speech (variant))
1. casual speech; informal language; peer language
Informal speech used between equals or close friends, as opposed to polite or honorific language. Characterized by plain verb forms and casual vocabulary. Often discussed in the context of Japanese social hierarchy and age relationships.
先輩(せんぱい)にタメ(ぐち)はよくない。
Using casual speech with a senior is not appropriate.
(なか)がいいからタメ(ぐち)(はな)している。
We're close, so we speak casually to each other.
初対面(しょたいめん)(ひと)にいきなりタメ(ぐち)使(つか)うのは失礼(しつれい)だと(おも)われることが(おお)い。
It is often considered rude to suddenly use casual speech with someone you've just met.

ETYMOLOGY:
タメ comes from the gambling term meaning "same" (same score/rank), referring to people of equal standing. (くち)/(ぐち) means "speech" or "way of talking."

CULTURAL NOTE:
In Japanese society, the choice between 敬語(けいご) (polite language) and タメ(ぐち) is an important social decision. Using タメ(ぐち) with someone older or of higher status is generally considered rude, while switching from 敬語(けいご) to タメ(ぐち) between peers signals growing closeness.

COMMON COLLOCATIONS:

  • タメ(ぐち)使(つか)う (to use casual speech)
  • タメ(ぐち)(はな)す (to speak casually)
  • タメ(ぐち)をきく (to speak casually, slightly negative nuance)