()(とど)める

おしとどめる
verb-ichidan
to restrain; to hold back; to dissuade
Conjugation
AffirmativeNegative
Present()(とど)める()(とど)めない
Present polite()(とど)めます()(とど)めません
Past()(とど)めた()(とど)めなかった
Past polite()(とど)めました()(とど)めませんでした
て form()(とど)めて()(とど)めなくて
ている present()(とど)めている()(とど)めていない
ている polite()(とど)めています()(とど)めていません
ている past()(とど)めていた()(とど)めていなかった
ている past polite()(とど)めていました()(とど)めていませんでした
Conditional ば()(とど)めれば()(とど)めなければ
Conditional たら()(とど)めたら()(とど)めなかったら
Volitional()(とど)めよう
Volitional polite()(とど)めましょう
Potential()(とど)められる()(とど)められない
Passive()(とど)められる()(とど)められない
Causative()(とど)めさせる()(とど)めさせない
Imperative()(とど)めろ()(とど)めるな
1. to restrain; to hold back; to stop someone from acting
To physically prevent someone from moving or acting, often by pushing or holding them in place.
(かれ)()(とど)めた。
I held him back.
(あば)れる(おとこ)(まわ)りの(ひと)()(とど)めた。
People nearby restrained the man who was acting violently.
()()そうとする()どもを母親(ははおや)(あわ)てて()(とど)めた。
The mother hurriedly held back the child who was about to run out.
2. to dissuade; to talk someone out of something
To persuade someone not to do something impulsive or risky, convincing them to reconsider their course of action.
退職(たいしょく)しようとする(かれ)()(とど)めた。
I dissuaded him from quitting.
友人(ゆうじん)無謀(むぼう)計画(けいかく)()(とど)めた。
I talked my friend out of their reckless plan.
上司(じょうし)転職(てんしょく)相談(そうだん)したが、(つよ)()(とど)められた。
I consulted my boss about changing jobs, but was strongly dissuaded.

A compound verb from ()す (to push) and (とど)める (to stop, keep in place). Sense 1 implies physical restraint — literally holding someone back from moving or acting. Sense 2 is more figurative — persuading someone not to do something, often something impulsive or risky.

COMMON COLLOCATIONS:

  • (ひと)()(とど)める: to hold someone back
  • (いか)りを()(とど)める: to hold back one's anger
  • (つよ)()(とど)める: to firmly restrain/dissuade

SIMILAR WORDS:

  • ()()める: to detain, hold back — emphasizes pulling back; often used for persuading someone to stay
  • 制止(せいし)する: to restrain, stop — more formal; often used in official or news contexts
  • ()める: to stop — general; lacks the forceful nuance of ()(とど)める