()()とし

こおとし
noun
tough love; trial-by-fire child-rearing
1. tough love; trial-by-fire upbringing
A child-rearing approach of deliberately exposing a child to hardship to make them stronger. The image comes from the legend that a lion pushes its cub off a cliff and raises only the one that climbs back up.
獅子(しし)()()としだ。
It's tough love, like a lion pushing its cub off a cliff.
(ちち)()()としのつもりで(わたし)(とお)くの学校(がっこう)()かせた。
My father sent me to a distant school as a kind of tough love.
獅子(しし)()()としのような(きび)しい訓練(くんれん)()()えてこそ、本物(ほんもの)(ちから)()につく。
Only by overcoming a lion-style tough-love training does one acquire real strength.

Comes from the saying 獅子(しし)()()千尋(せんじん)(たに)()とす — "the lion drops its cub into a deep valley." Usually appears in the longer form 獅子(しし)()()とし; the short form ()()とし is less common.

USAGE:
Describes a deliberately strict or harsh choice made out of belief that hardship strengthens the child. Carries a serious, sometimes admiring tone — not a casual term for ordinary discipline.

SIMILAR EXPRESSIONS:

  • 可愛(かわい)()には(たび)をさせよ: send the cherished child on a journey — similar moral, gentler imagery
  • スパルタ教育(きょういく): Spartan upbringing — modern term for harsh training