(あま)(じょうず)

あまえじょうず
noun / na-adjective
good at acting spoiled; skilled at getting others to help
1. good at acting spoiled; skilled at getting others to help
skilled at appealing to others' affection or kindness to get favors or assistance
彼女(かのじょ)(あま)上手(じょうず)だ。
She's good at getting others to do things for her.
もっと(あま)上手(じょうず)になりたい。
I want to become better at relying on others.
(あま)上手(じょうず)(ひと)可愛(かわい)がられやすい。
People who are good at acting spoiled tend to be well-liked.

COMPOUND:
(あま)える (to act spoiled, depend on) + 上手(じょうず) (skilled at)

NUANCE:

  • Can be positive: good at building relationships, asking for help
  • Can be negative: manipulative, overly dependent
  • Often used to describe feminine charm

CULTURAL CONTEXT:

(あま)え is a uniquely Japanese concept:

  • Refers to seeking indulgent treatment from others
  • Discussed by psychologist 土居健郎(どいたけお) in 「(あま)えの構造(こうぞう)

PATTERN:

~上手(じょうず) pattern (skilled at ~):

  • (はな)上手(じょうず) - good at speaking
  • ()上手(じょうず) - good at listening
  • 世渡(よわた)上手(じょうず) - socially savvy