揉(も)める

もめる
verb (ichidan, intransitive)
to have trouble; to quarrel; to dispute
1. to have trouble; to quarrel; to dispute; to have a conflict
For people or parties to have disagreements or conflicts. Often used for disputes over money, inheritance, or interpersonal conflicts.
遺産(いさん)のことで兄弟(きょうだい)が揉(も)めている。
The siblings are fighting over the inheritance.
近所(きんじょ)と騒音(そうおん)のことで揉(も)めた。
We had a dispute with the neighbors over noise.
会社(かいしゃ)と揉(も)めずに円満(えんまん)退社(たいしゃ)したい。
I want to leave the company amicably without any conflict.

TRANSITIVITY:
Intransitive verb (自動詞(じどうし)). Related transitive form: 揉(も)む (to massage; to rub).

USAGE:

揉(も)める specifically refers to interpersonal or inter-party conflicts and disputes. Common contexts include:

  • お金(かね)で揉(も)める - to fight over money
  • 遺産(いさん)で揉(も)める - to dispute over inheritance
  • 離婚(りこん)で揉(も)める - to have conflicts during divorce

COMMON PATTERNS:

  • 〜と揉(も)める (to have a dispute with ~)
  • 〜のことで揉(も)める (to fight over ~)
  • 揉(も)め事(ごと) (trouble, dispute - noun form)

RELATED WORDS:

  • 揉(も)め事(ごと) - trouble, dispute
  • 揉(も)め合(あ)う - to struggle/scuffle together

REGISTER:
Casual to neutral. Common in everyday conversation.

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Added 2026.1.19 16:19 · Revised 2026.1.19 21:14
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