と
と is one of the most versatile particles in Japanese, with five major uses.
LISTING (AとB):
Connects nouns in a complete, exhaustive list. AとB means "A and B (and nothing else)." For incomplete lists, use や instead.
ACCOMPANIMENT (~と):
Marks the person you do something with. Implies mutual participation. Compare: 友達と会う (meet with a friend — mutual) vs. 友達に会う (meet a friend — directional).
QUOTATION (~と言う/思う):
Marks quoted speech or thought. Required before verbs like 言う, 思う, 聞く, 書く. Omitting と before 思う is a common learner mistake.
CONDITIONAL (~と):
Expresses natural or automatic consequences. Cannot be used for requests or commands. Use ~たら for those instead.
COMPARISON (~と同じ/違う):
Marks the standard of comparison: これと同じ (same as this), 昨日と違う (different from yesterday).