タメ語(ご)

ためご
noun
casual speech, informal language
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1. casual speech, informal language between equals
Informal, plain-form speech used between people of equal status (same age, close friends, etc.). Contrasted with 敬語(けいご) (polite/formal language).
タメ語(ご)で話(はな)していいよ。
You can talk to me casually.
Using casual speech with a senior is rude.
同(おな)い年(どし)だとわかったので、タメ語(ご)に切(き)り替(か)えた。
Once I found out we were the same age, I switched to casual speech.

Etymology

タメ comes from gambling slang where タメ means "equal" (as in dice showing the same number). 語(ご) means "language/speech." So タメ語(ご) literally means "equal-status language."

Similar words

  • タメ口(ぐち): the same thing, and the more common word; タメ語(ご) is a less frequent variant

Usage

The shift from 敬語(けいご) to タメ語(ご) is an important social milestone in Japanese relationships. Being invited to use タメ語(ご) signals closeness and acceptance.

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