(あたま)()がらない

あたまがあがらない
expression
to be no match for; to be unable to hold one's head up before
idiomsociety
1. to be unable to hold one's head up before someone; to be no match for
To feel unable to assert oneself in front of someone because of a debt of gratitude, their authority, or one's own past failings; literally 'one's head does not rise', as in a permanent bow. The person is marked with に: (つま)には(あたま)()がらない.
(つま)(あたま)()がらない。
I can't stand up to my wife.
(むかし)世話(せわ)になった先輩(せんぱい)(いま)(あたま)()がらない。
I still can't hold my head up before the senior who looked after me back then.
Ever since his brother paid off his debt for him, he has been unable to hold his head up before him.

Literally 'one's head does not rise': the image is of a bow one can never come up from. The person is marked with , usually .

Common patterns

  • (あたま)()がらない: to be unable to stand up to ~
  • (あたま)()がらない相手(あいて): someone one can never stand up to

Usage

Said of a spouse, a benefactor, a former teacher, or anyone whose help or authority leaves one permanently in the weaker position. Often half-joking, especially about one's wife or husband.

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